I have been being very patient with my Mom lately. I have been waiting to speak so I don’t speak out of impulse or frustration.
I have a different relationship with my Mom that is not a parent relationship. When I attempted to have a child parent relationship with my Mom it only caused me to feel more hurt by her inability to meet my needs. I know that my Mom does love me, but considering who her Mother was (one of my abusers) I understand it.
I have been a little stuck on my Mom issues until I realized that I only want a Mom because my umbilical cord. I am biologically attached to my Mom and that is why I have this never ending need for her to be a Mother figure to me. I never understood why no matter how much work I did on my Momma drama it never went away. I realized this the other day in therapy.
The bellybutton theory…